March 24, 2010

sing dinosaur

This is funny because of the singing Brachiosaurus.It also reminds me a bit of the Loch Ness Monster, which makes me sad, because there will probably be no more dramatic readings of THE ORM.

March 22, 2010

Daily Pep Talk

Daily Pep Talk From A Best Friend knows what I need often when I don't.
She posts little "pick-me-ups" and pep talks, which could sound cheesy, but are really nice. Sometimes you need a positive reminder. I am a cynical optimist, but the emphasis there is optimist. I really am a happy person. I'm trying to give myself time right now to adjust, to be sad, to be cynical, to be anti-social, and I need that time, but I'm trying not to get sucked into the dark place. I want to see the light. I want to be my normal cheerful, enthusiastic self, but it's just hard to do that right now. I don't want to socialize, then feel bad for wasthing perfectly good days doing nothing. I get tired of making all the plans all the time. I don't reach out for help if I need it. I've been taking care of myself for too long. So when I'm left suddenly truly alone, it's hard to figure out where to go.

Here are some of her pep talks below:
Dating is not so bad.
Pep talk: If this one isn't THE one, you'll survive without them. It's daunting to go back to dating but you can handle it. You're foxy as hell and you will not settle.
Today remind yourself: Dating is not so bad.

You can forgive.
Pep talk: Forgiveness frees you from the pain of the past. It allows you to progress and to stop feeling like shit. If you forgive, you don’t necessarily have to forget, but you can at least stop obsessively thinking about who done you wrong. I can’t even wrap my head around how angry and twisted my life would be without forgiveness. Forgiveness is a blessing.
Today remind yourself: I can forgive.

You're boldly going.
Pep talk: If you don't care what a person thinks, don't ask for their opinion. You know you're heading in the right direction and you can be confident without feedback.
Today remind yourself: I'm boldly going.

She's started lately to post videos of things she's edited for Gawker, which I don't care for as much and detract from the message of her blog.

March 17, 2010

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I came home from work today and did nearly exactly what I'd been waiting all day to do-- sat outside and read until the sun went away, and then slept for hours. Now I'm going to bed. I don't think I ate dinner. I've got a permanent crick in my neck, probably from sleeping on my love seat. I'm not feeling myself right now. Nothing is exciting or worth looking forward too. I couldn't even get excited for St. Patrick's day, and you know how I feel about holidays. Everything just seems so boring and hard and strange. Going to go to bed now and hope that things look brighter in the morning. The nice weather we're supposed to get will help.

March 16, 2010


I like it when friends are open to impromptu get togethers. Isn't that what Twitter's for, anyway?

(Photos from This is Glamourous)

Music: Run-Snow Patrol

How not to be boring in conversation

Today I'm posting something I saved awhile ago from The Happiness Project. I find that too often, people go on and on and don't know how to talk to other people, at parties, on dates, in networking events, so I wanted to post this list. I also find concentrating on these things myself helps ensure I'm not boring others either.

Post below is from Gretchen's site. I espeically think 5 and 6 are important.

Eight Tips to Know If You're Being Boring.
By GretchenRubin from The Happiness Project

Once you’re talking, how do you know if the other person is interested in your conversation – or not? One challenge is that the more socially adept a person is, the better he or she is at hiding boredom. It’s a rare person, however, who can truly look fascinated while bored.

Here are the factors I watch, when trying to figure out if I’m connecting with someone. These are utterly unscientific – I’m sure someone has made a proper study of this, but these are just my observations (mostly from noting how I behave when I’m bored and trying to hide it):

1. Repeated, perfunctory responses. A person who repeats, “Oh really? Wow. Oh really? Interesting.” isn't particularly engaged.

Quotes for living

“No man knows how bad he is till he has tried very hard to be good…Only those who try to resist temptation know how strong it is.”
-- C.S. Lewis

“If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant: if we did not sometimes taste of adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome.”
-- Anne Bradstreet

"We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give."
--Sir Winston Churchill

March 15, 2010

Glare of the computer screen.

This is what I get for sleeping all weekend. Now I can't make myself go to bed. I'm listening to this music, as per @tokyohanna . It's a little too upbeat for bedtime music, though, which was her suggestion.

(Photo from This is Glamorous)

I want to do a pink lip like this. Love the lighting here. 'Course, I'm not blond, so it wouldn't look the same.

I'm in a weird mood tonight. Not bad, just pensive. It feels good to be pensive. I wonder why I'm so resistant to the idea of other people having children, of getting married. I've got to assume it makes them happy, but those are not things I see for myself, so it seems so odd and unpleasant. Not that I don't like the idea of marriage, I've just never really been with someone I thought I'd spend the rest of my life with, and it seems rather sophomoric that soo many people think they have. I believe in love. I've been in love, several times. None of us wants to end up alone, but I think its awfully unrealistic to think that one person can meet all our needs for the rest of our lives. I realize this all makes me sound like a terrible cynic, and I don't want to be a negative person because I'm really not.

Do I just read people better than they read themselves? You know how sometimes you hear someone talking, you see their actions, and you just go, wow, they're really deluded. Sometimes they do it purposefully, but its scarier when they don't see it at all.

I'm having flashbacks to up-late-IM conversations in college. God, those were so dramatic, so life-changing, or at least they felt that way when I was 19, 20 years old. I always said the best art comes out of melancholy, out of unhappiness, out of tragedy, of unrequited love. I wrote some good poetry back then, ha. Shit, some of this music brings back memories. I love how music does that. Smell too. Bionic nose and all. How many of you have saved IM conversations on your computer? Be honest. I still do.

Is sleep deprivation just another addiction, a punishment of the modern world? So many people I know have insomnia all the time. I never have a problem sleeping. I'm a sleeper, in fact, I'd be more likely to oversleep. But I wonder how much we now compete to sleep less, we each trying to out-busy the other. Trying to show how brave we are by not sleeping. A more postmodern(? I hate this term, no one has been able to accurately define it for me) form of self-punishment, like starving yourself, purging, or cutting?

My cat is curled up in my spot on the couch.

Tonight's blog writing playlist (on random, more or less):
Citadel-Anna Nalick
Goodbye Girl-Hootie & the Blowfish
Kiss From A Rose-Seal
Best I Ever Had-Vertical Horizon
Walking After You-Foo Fighters
Same in Any Language-I Nine

March 14, 2010

Stop Motion

Found this enchanting stop-motion video from Nectar & Light. Clearly I really do want to be a redhead.

Angela Kohler's photography is amazing.

March 11, 2010

Streetstyle blogs

I just posted a lot of new inspiration photos in my Winter Everyday People. Here a few teasers:

Found at Cafe Mode

I'd wished I could have gotten an outfit photo of the student earlier in my office, but that probably would have seemed weird. She was dressed casually in jeans, but had an overall theme of sparkles. She had a embellished crystal beige top, with a glitter beige shrug over it. She had a fascinator with sparkly stones on it, and her thong sandals were crystallized too. She had 3 large crystal bangles on one arm, and another with thinner bangles. It was a lot of accessories, but it really worked on her. Oh, and she had red hair. I covet red hair, but I've never really seen it look good on someone who isn't naturally a red head, and I don't want purple hair. I think hers was dyed, but she was fair and freckly and it looked good on her. Sigh. Shear Genius (I never watch this show, but I caught it last night), had a Gorgeous natural redhead as a model for one of the challenges. She's here, click through to number 9. Other fav redheads of mine:

Rene Russo in The Thomas Crown Affair (also a fav movie)

This was from an Etsy site I think, but I love both the color, style, and the hair fascinator.

new food at RVA News

I've got a few new articles up over at RVA News about food focusing on new places that have opened up, including Spoonfed, Strange Matter, and Fan House

March 10, 2010

The Oracle says

I'm a little creeped out that the upgrade of our content management system is now called "Oracle" in red letters (in the same font as Honda, I might add).

I love Cake Wrecks. If you haven't read them, you are not my friend. Go. Go now to the last post. The Oracle says so. Wait for the last bit, it's the best.
At work, there's a quote on event flier at work by Winston Churchill:

You make a living by what you get. You make a life by what you give.
Every time I see that, I start singing the "You Get What You Give" song by the New Radicals.

The singer is bad at lip-syncing.

March 8, 2010

Ukelele in crochet

Found this from my friend's blog Snippets & Snapshots.

So cute, awfully realistic, and the music is good too! Apparently there's a whole series of vidoes on You Tube. I'm watching them now.

March 3, 2010

Richmond Noir reading

(from Chop Suey's Blog)

Oh, clever photo.

So I'll be going to this book reading this week. After I posted a bit ago about reading Richmond Noir cover to cover.

8:00 PM

featuring readings from contributors X.C. Atkins, Clay McLeod Chapman, Dennis Danvers , Dean King, and Howard Owen

w/ editors Andrew Blossom, Brian Castleberry, and Tom De Haven

Book sales and author greeting will begin at 8:00. The readings will start around 8:45, with the performance from the Scott Burton Trio following. I have a date with RHONY at 10pm, so I won't be able to stay all night.

I hope to see I Could Go On and On there.

In other small Richmond news, I found out the piano accompanist for the chorus I sing in is the mother of a friend of mine. All this time, and I didn't know!

March 2, 2010

Happy things

Borrowed from Taza, it's good to do these now and then.

10 things that make me happy
1. sunny days
2. Eastercrack
3. getting published
4. the smell of a new book
5. invitations
6. the first warm day after a long winter
7. new stationery
8. sparkly jewelry
9. spooning with Kia
10. a good hair day